Post by steve on Aug 20, 2013 15:50:39 GMT -6
Although I have hesitated to write this, because my writing can sometimes easily be misunderstood, I feel compelled to express how I deal with people passing. It is one of the things I have had to deal with repeatedly for some time now.
My first reaction seems to always be poor. First I get a headache and take a nap for a few hours. That is a very bad idea, but that is the pattern.
But then I have to take the time to remind myself of the Serenity Prayer and to look for the good in the situation. Yes, it sounds strange to say, but even in death, there is a good side.
The first thing that comes to mind is what you will hear so many say without really understanding how true it is: at least he didn't suffer. While many may think of this as just something you say, you will only truly know how true this is if you have every had someone close to you pass away gradually from a terminal illness. Why? Because when someone close to you suffers, you suffer and everyone around them suffers. Take heart that TommyD passed away relatively peacefully and in the manner I would like to go. I don't want no morning, or trumpets, or tears. The best way to go is to just be here one day, and not be here the next.
And then there is the more important thing that we can all learn from. The only thing you have once you pass is how you are remembered. Think about it and how this applies to you. How would you like to be remembered. From the posts I see here, I think it is very clear that TommyD is a very rich man now. He has everything he could hope for. I just hope that I am remembered as fondly.
Sorry to ramble so long, but I wanted to say something. I guess it is part of how I deal with things such as this.
My first reaction seems to always be poor. First I get a headache and take a nap for a few hours. That is a very bad idea, but that is the pattern.
But then I have to take the time to remind myself of the Serenity Prayer and to look for the good in the situation. Yes, it sounds strange to say, but even in death, there is a good side.
The first thing that comes to mind is what you will hear so many say without really understanding how true it is: at least he didn't suffer. While many may think of this as just something you say, you will only truly know how true this is if you have every had someone close to you pass away gradually from a terminal illness. Why? Because when someone close to you suffers, you suffer and everyone around them suffers. Take heart that TommyD passed away relatively peacefully and in the manner I would like to go. I don't want no morning, or trumpets, or tears. The best way to go is to just be here one day, and not be here the next.
And then there is the more important thing that we can all learn from. The only thing you have once you pass is how you are remembered. Think about it and how this applies to you. How would you like to be remembered. From the posts I see here, I think it is very clear that TommyD is a very rich man now. He has everything he could hope for. I just hope that I am remembered as fondly.
Sorry to ramble so long, but I wanted to say something. I guess it is part of how I deal with things such as this.
